The internet has slammed a bride for asking her cousin to work for free if she can’t go to the wedding.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a family member shared his story under an anonymous username to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 900 comments.
The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining how she and her wife own a printing business. Her wife’s cousin was a bride-to-be and wanted them to print guest books, life size cutouts, banners and more. Since they were family, the OP decided not to charge them as they were happy to help.
In the weeks leading up to the wedding, the bride’s wedding planner would talk to them about when they would need the items. However, the OP and her wife had very few details as to when the wedding took place, as they had not received their invitation.
It turns out the bride told the OP’s wife that they “downsized” the wedding and unfortunately they were removed from the guest list as they were all close family and friends.
The OP and his wife were “hurt and offended” when they heard the news.
“We spent almost $2000 on all the materials. Her cousin and the wedding planner kept making small revisions to the artwork, had us print samples to see how it would look in person, resized some items a few times, etc. All of this took a lot of time and money. And we’re a functioning business, so we either had to postpone other orders or stay longer and print their stuff on our own time,” the OP said.
“I billed her for our expenses and said we have to pay before delivery because I won’t be pursuing her for payment months/years after the wedding. We don’t make any money from it, we just charged her for the cost of materials. So far we have had threatening phone calls from the cousin, her fiancé, some random members of my wife’s family that I don’t know, some of the groomsmen etc, I am considering charging full price or we won’t deliver the items,” they concluded.
news week asked the OP for comment.
Newsweek has published several articles on weddings, including how a woman was supported for “staging” a bride at her wedding, a bridal shop supported for forcing a woman to sign a $489 waiver or losing weight, and a bride showing off her “dream wedding dress.” to mixed reactions online.
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U/Braign received the top comment from over 14,000 upvotes: “‘Sorry we had to scale down the discount to cover only close friends and family’ [Not the a**hole].”
“[Not the a**hole]. Tell her it’s only free for “close friends and family.” Having determined that you do not fall into this category, the distant family will pay for the cost of materials (or the full cost if you choose to charge),” said u/poweller65.
“[Not the a**hole]. Tell them if they keep the threats, they won’t get any of the materials either. If they don’t think you’re close enough to be at the wedding, then you’re not close enough to give them your work for free. What a Bridezilla,” wrote u/RandomlyDi.
“[Not the a**hole] The boldness of these people! I’m confident they never intended to invite you to the wedding and only wanted free stuff. Don’t let her get away. While it’s a shame you only charged them the cost, you still feel like they got away with something. Please make sure you tell your family what REALLY happened because these people are absolutely telling you a very different version of events. I’m sure they’re leaving out essential details,” commented u/Tricky-Flamingo-7491.
https://www.newsweek.com/bride-bashed-asking-cousin-work-free-when-they-cant-come-wedding-1748121 Bride beat up for asking cousin to work freelance when she can’t come to wedding