A woman has been slammed online after failing to invite her brother-in-law’s fiancé to her wedding.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman using the anonymous username u/aitainvite shared her story to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 2,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she and her fiancé “Harry” both grew up in family-oriented households and that Harry is close to his siblings. However, Harry’s brother “Jack” doesn’t interact much with his family. He sends them messages and occasionally attends family gatherings.
They found out that Jack is engaged to “Liz” who the OP met last year but doesn’t know much about her. She explained that they’ve been engaged for a while but didn’t tell anyone until recently.
“She’s kind enough and very beautiful (although she doesn’t use it at all/dress up) but she’s kind of needy, like she’s literally always clinging to Jack and doesn’t make an effort to talk to the rest of us (and he always apologizes for her). We’ve all tried to talk to her and include her, but it’s a one-way conversation and the only time she brings anything of her own to the table is to talk about her work,” she said.
When the wedding invitation arrived at Jack, he noticed that he hadn’t gotten a plus.
“I don’t think Liz is close enough to be invited,” the OP exclaimed. “Jack said no when Harry called to ask why he said he wouldn’t be attending without Liz. I also spoke to Jack and said we understand his decision, but we’re just not very close to Liz. Harry added that maybe he should reconsider and he could have fun at the wedding with a little free time from Liz, but Jack pretty much went off and called us selfish.”
news week asked u/aitainvite for a comment.
Should every guest at a wedding deserve a plus?
A plus one is usually a person invited to a wedding by a guest. Does everyone invited to a wedding get a plus one? It depends. If the couple has unlimited space, they could offer everyone a plus. If not, there might be a select few who are allowed to bring someone.
Who Should Get a Plus? According to theknot.com, anyone who is married is the wedding party or a “VIP” guest. A “VIP” guest is someone the couple knows, but the guest would not know anyone and would be more comfortable with someone they know.
Who doesn’t absolutely need a plus? A guest “casually dating” or single guests who know other attendees, per wedding-spot.com.
news week has published many articles on weddings, including a man who refused to attend his sister’s wedding he is paying for, a guest who was supported online for a complaint about a “ridiculous tradition” that ruined a wedding, and a debate sparked after brides reveal what they wish they knew when planning their wedding.
“Yes [You’re the a**hole]. This isn’t a random date, it’s someone he decided to spend the rest of his life with. It’s rude to invite only half of a couple. What does it matter if you’re not close to Liz? You are close to Harry. Don’t be so damn stingy if you pay for an extra meal, you’re hurting your fiancé’s relationship with his brother,” said u/thewhiterosequeen, receiving the top comment from over 10,000 upvotes.
U/whatsmypassword73 wrote: “[You’re the a**hole], seriously, they’re engaged and he’s the groom’s brother? That’s not much, I wouldn’t show up either. They have some serious redemptions to make.”
“[You’re the a**hole] It’s your future sister-in-law. It doesn’t pay to be petty about the damage done to your relationship in the future,” commented u/ksarr226.
“[You’re the a**hole]. Holy cow. Jack is immediate family, and even if he were single he should have +1. That’s really basic decency and in order to behave the way you did you went out of your way to personally insult him by singleing out him and diminishing his relationship with your future sister-in-law,” exclaimed u/mdkroma out.
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