A bride took to social media last week to air out her wedding party’s dirty laundry and revealed she’s no longer friends with some of them.
Pea Tear Griffin (@peatreeeee) “spilled the tea” in a now-viral TikTok video, writing, “Weddings bring out the best and the worst in some people.” It has amassed over 1 million views and nearly 1,500 comments from viewers, from which many called the video “relatable”. Still, some shamed Griffin for sharing her grievances with her former friends.
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It’s not uncommon for couples to lose touch with members of their wedding party after the big day. Speak with Harper’s BazaarRachel Darke, former editor of wedding ideasShe said this is because wedding planning tends to “emphasise the extremes” of everyone involved.
“In my experience, wedding planning brings out the absolute extremes in everyone except the couple who decide to head off to a party for two. The pressure of hosting the best day for hundreds of guests brings Jekyll and Hyde together and of course that will affect friendships,” Darke said.
Simone Bose, an advisor to charity Relate, added that weddings are “unusual circumstances” that cause friendship dynamics to change, which can be upsetting for some, especially bridesmaids.
“You have to remember that it’s a moment when your boyfriend is more self-absorbed than he ever would be,” Bose said Harper’s Bazaar. “It’ll feel like there’s a hierarchy there for a while, but the friendship will probably settle down after that. Try to remember that.”
news week has reached out to Simone Bose for further comment.
In her video, Griffin shared individual photos of each member of her wedding party and briefly explained their current friendship status. While she and her husband are still friends with several groomsmen — two are “fairy godmothers” to their sons — she’s lost touch with most of her bridesmaids.
“She complained about everything leading up to the wedding,” Griffin said of one of her bridesmaids. “[She] sulked all day and then we never heard from her again.”
She said of another bridesmaid: “[We] stayed friends for a while, and one day she deleted me [from] her socials and never told me why.”
Another bridesmaid, she said, “recently came out as a fanatic,” and while she’s still friends with the fourth, they’re “not as close” as they used to be.
As previously mentioned, many viewers felt Griffin’s video was “relatable” and thanked her for showing what “real life” is like.
“I love showing real life and not just sunshine [and] roses. It’s sad, but that’s how it is sometimes. [It’s] so refreshing to see that,” Isha said.
“It’s so understandable. And it always made me feel so alone,” one user wrote.
“Thanks for sharing this! I only speak to 2/6 bridesmaids. They were terrible. I wish I didn’t have one!!!” a_r-h exclaimed.
Others questioned Griffin’s motives for sharing the video, urging her to “reflect for herself.”
“Why would you do that?” asked a user.
“If I were to lose so many close friends in my party, I would do some serious self-reflection and ask if I’m the problem,” Penny Boop said.
“I’d like to hear your opinion on you,” added Abi Hawkins.
Some, on the other hand, seemed to have no opinions anyway — they just loved the drama.
“The Teeaaaaa whistles,” said Chelsea May.
Lindsay commented, “Absolutely can’t wait for the hot drama to begin! The algorithm won’t let me down now.”
news week Pea Tear Griffin has reached out for comment.
With so many people making a successful wedding a priority, it’s understandable that some stories go viral.
On Monday, online commentators supported a mother who allowed her daughter to wear a “skater-style” black dress to a wedding.
Last week, Redditors slammed a woman for snapping at her sister when she left her wedding over a child emergency.
And commentators blasted another woman last week for wearing a “cream” dress to her sister’s wedding.
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