A man has been slammed online after telling a woman she wanted “just a free meal” after she told him she wouldn’t have sex with him.
Posted on popular video-sharing platform TikTok, one woman has garnered over 2 million likes and 13 million views for recording an awkward interaction with a date.
@talisa0913 started her video by thanking her date and asking if she could pick up half of the bill. Her date then offered to pay for her.
After sharing her appreciation, she explained that she was going back to her room. He went on to ask if he could accompany her there and in response she politely told him that she didn’t think anyone would be allowed upstairs if they didn’t stay in the room.
“Oh, I see,” he said.
She politely explained that she didn’t have sex on the first date and he responded with “Who said that?”
She explained to him that she felt like he was implying it the entire date.
“You just wanted a free meal. Got it,” he argued.
“No no. First of all, I have no problem paying my own bill to avoid something like this,” she said.
“Then do it… do it,” he told her, “pay your own bills.”
Commentators were quick to slam the man for his choice of words.
“Not the gaslighting when you said you don’t do it on the first date,” said one user, receiving over 81,000 likes for his comment.
“Well thank god he showed his true self on the first date,” said another.
One commenter recalled, “Ladies, even if he pays for dinner, you still owe him nothing!”
“As soon as he said ‘oh you just wanted a free meal,’ he confirmed that he expected something for the meal,” pointed out one user.
“Sounds like he got a little emotional there,” wrote one TikTok user.
“I ALWAYS pay for my stuff and drive because I don’t end up owing anyone anything,” shared another commenter.
“Did he accompany you to your room? He does not have? [realize] Maybe you don’t want to tell someone where you live on a first date,” asked one user.
Feeling uncomfortable on dates
“We all know that we have to be careful with online dating. Online identities are anonymous and we have absolutely no understanding of their psychological makeup before we meet them,” said relationship expert and author Susan Winter news week.
Winter suggests clients meet for coffee or tea on their first date, not a meal.
“It has nothing to do with the concept of ‘women’s worth’. It allows you to escape from an awkward situation with ease as the time frame is set to a shorter period of time (this is simply a meet and greet event). Also, there is little room for your date to assume that you owe him the money he gets. spent,” Winter explained.
Winter added that if you’re uncomfortable on a first date, you should politely apologize.
“If you feel like your date will be hostile if you don’t provide a plausible excuse, then make a plausible excuse. It has less to do with etiquette and more to do with survival and safety,” Winter said news week.
Winter also shared some red flags to watch out for on a date:
- Intrusive Questioning (or Boundary Crossing)
- Signs of an excessive need for control
- Obviously rigid thinking
- hate speech
- Obvious bias
https://www.newsweek.com/man-said-woman-just-wanted-free-meal-after-she-wouldnt-sleep-him-1763749 Husband said wife only wanted free meal after she wouldn’t sleep with him