Internet commentators were furious after a man aired numerous complaints about his wife’s demands for their family budget.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/throwaway3048172 (aka Original Poster or OP) said his wife received a substantial inheritance and took care of his housing, transportation, and retirement but explained why he felt it was inappropriate that she wanted to spend his salary on her free time.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for not wanting to pay my wife’s allowance?” The post received nearly 9,000 upvotes and more than 5,000 comments in the last day.
“Before our daughter was born, my wife and I both worked full-time,” OP began. “My wife’s grandma who kind of raised her… sadly died when our daughter was 6 months old… my wife inherited everything she owned.”
He went on to explain that his wife’s inheritance was large enough to buy a house, buy two brand new cars and set up a comfortable retirement plan, and said his wife quickly quit working and became a homemaker.
The original poster also said he wished he could stop working, but explained that his wife and daughter still need his steady income to make ends meet.
“My wife recently spoke to me about how we budget so we can live off just my income,” the OP wrote. “I said if I’m the one who has to work … I don’t think I should be spending my money to fund her hobbies and expenses.
“I don’t see why I should pay for stuff like her sewing supplies and gym membership since I don’t benefit from it,” OP continued. “I work 36 hours a week and I already pay the bills and the food.
“My wife said her inheritance was worth more than if she worked her whole life and without that we would both be working anyway and have higher expenses paying a mortgage and a car loan so I should count that as her contribution and share my money with her,” OP added.
Despite the obvious benefits of a large cash inflow, large inheritance funds can be problematic for married couples.
When one partner is entitled to a sizable inheritance, the other can quickly be overwhelmed by megalomania and a lavish future. Or determined to use every penny for the benefit of the whole family.
However, problems arise when reality strikes and the Miscellaneous The partner learns that they have no legal say in the allocation of these inherited funds.
“Even when sensible, educated people say, ‘I get it, it’s not my money, it’s his/hers and it’s a law… there’s still an acknowledged feeling, ‘but why shouldn’t he/she see it like ours,” said Lynn Zakeri, a clinical social worker and therapist from Illinois The Wall Street Journal in 2020.
Not all inheritances are kept separate from spouse interests, however, and those receiving money from a deceased loved one are perfectly entitled to add a spouse’s name to the inheritance fund through a process known as commingling.
But even if a person shares inherited money with their spouse — or buys a house, two cars, and starts a retirement fund — there’s no guarantee that enough will ever be enough.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors were shocked at the original poster’s complaints and were quick to point out that his wife’s major purchases and other contributions exceeded his 36-hour-week earnings and should be recognized as such.
“[You’re the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/Bitter-Conflict-4089 in the top comment of the post, which received almost 39,000 upvotes. “Are you aware that the inheritance belonged exclusively to your wife? Right?
“She didn’t have to buy you a house or car or finance your retirement,” they added.
“OP doesn’t know how lucky he is,” chipped in Redditor u/EruOreki, receiving more than 12,000 upvotes.
Redditor u/HardRainisFalling, whose comment received more than 17,000 upvotes, offered a similar answer.
“So your wife bought you a house and two cars, fully funded your retirement, and is raising your child, but you don’t think you should pay for the things she enjoys?” they questioned. “Maybe she should take back the house and the cars.”
“Your wife paid for the house you live in [and] the car you drive, but you don’t give her money to buy clothes or get her hair cut,” Redditor echoed u/YMMV-But, garnering nearly 9,000 upvotes. “Hypocrite a lot?”
news week contacted u/throwaway3048172 for comment.
https://www.newsweek.com/man-slammed-complaints-over-wealthy-wifes-budgeting-hypocrite-much-1738769 Husband slammed for complaining about his wealthy wife’s budgeting: ‘Hypocrites a lot?’