The internet has blasted a man for leaving his wife at his mother’s house while he attended a party without her.
A woman posted on Reddit’s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum shared her story under the username u/Throwaway64246 with the forum’s followers to see if she was at fault for being angry at her husband was. The viral post has over 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
According to Redditor, she has been in a wheelchair since 2019. To get from place to place, she depends on her husband. For some time now he has been dropping her off at his mother’s and disappearing for hours. She says she has nothing against her mother-in-law, but she doesn’t like being outside for long periods of time. He always blames work or traffic for being late. He didn’t respond to her texts or calls, only when his mother called.
He recently told the Original Poster (OP) that he was invited to a friend’s engagement party and she said she wanted to go with him. He told her it would be best if he stayed with his mother until he returned. In response, she said she’d rather stay home when he got upset with her answer and told her he was taking her to the party instead.
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She explained: “He stopped by his mother’s house and dropped me off there. I asked him why we were at his mother’s house and not at his friend’s party. He said he had an hour before the event and had something urgent to do and he would come back to get me and we would go to the party together.”
“He left and I stayed with his mother. We chatted and she brought me coffee and sweets. An hour passed and I started calling him, he didn’t answer at first but then later turned off his phone. I was so angry I kept calling even though I knew his phone was off. I asked his mom to call him and it was still off. I waited three hours and just knew he lied about taking me to the party,” she continued.
She called her sister to pick her up. Her mother-in-law said it wasn’t a good idea as her husband had told his mother not to let her go until he got back. The OP ended up going home while her sister stayed with her the night as her husband didn’t come home and didn’t answer his phone.
He returned home the next day, upset that she left his mother’s house without him. He admitted to her that he lied and went to the party alone, explaining that it would have been “boring and awkward” for her and that it would have been more entertaining to stay with his mother “to admire her new plants.” . He told her he was too drunk and stayed the night at a friend’s, she confirmed he stayed the night by speaking to the friend.
“We had the biggest argument about it and I told him what he was doing was unacceptable but he said I overreacted because it wasn’t like he’d dumped me in a public place and said that I would have hurt both his mother and his mother by leaving . I said I won’t argue about this anymore, but he said that I was acting childish for throwing a fit for not attending a 3 hour event which he himself thought was trashy and classless” , she concluded.
The “AITA” community was quick to defend the OP for her reasoning about being angry with her husband.
“This is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT ABUSE,” warned u/definitelyjanine5, earning the top comment with over 18,000 upvotes. “He’s taking advantage of your condition and leaving you because he knows you can’t physically stop him. He’s sick and that’s gross, I think you need to treat this as a real wake-up call.”
“Your husband is lying to you. Exactly what he is hiding is a matter of debate, but he has empowered his mother as a co-conspirator (although she is unaware of the details) in his plan. He’s using your Wheelchair – Constrained Mobility as a way to do other things without you. I am so sorry that you are in this situation. But you are absolute [Not the A**hole]. Your husband pisses you off on a big level,” said u/GrandpaJoeSloth.
U/lihzee wrote: “[Not the A**hole]. Um, why are you staying with your husband at this point? He keeps dropping you off at his mom’s so you can go and do anything. He doesn’t seem to care about your wishes. How on earth did his feelings get hurt because you left his mother’s house? It sounds like he’s up to something and trying to get you out of the way.”
U/latoofarabumba exclaimed: “[Not the A**hole]. You should do this, abusive one, ahole immediately. He literally uses your disability against you and controls your movement. It’s disgusting. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER!”
news week contacted u/Throwaway64246 for comment.
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