Members of a popular internet forum have been vocal in support of a father who was proposing that his two adult daughters move out of the family home.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/worlebird (aka the original poster or OP) said his youngest daughter had complained about not having enough space in the house, and described the heated aftermath of his plain reply.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for telling my daughters that when they eventually move out, our house will be big enough for my wife and I?” The post received more than 6,400 votes and almost 900 comments in the last day.
Beginning by declaring that his two daughters are older than 21, the original poster said the couple still lives at home with him and his wife. However, despite the close family dynamic, the original poster said his recent reflections on an empty nest have increased family tensions.
“My youngest daughter has complained that she doesn’t have enough space for herself and that we should move to a bigger house to solve this problem,” the OP wrote. “I replied that I think our current house would be big enough…once both of my daughters eventually move out on their own.”
“This made her incredibly angry, and my wife berated me for the damage my comment did,” OP continued.
“I think my position is reasonable – I’m not trying to kick them out of the house, but they’re old enough that if they’re uncomfortable living at home it’s their responsibility to do something about it.” , OP added .
In the last two years, in part due to COVID-19 and skyrocketing inflation rates, more adult children have moved back in with their parents (or simply stayed home) than at any other time in U.S. history.
In July 2020, the Pew Research Center reported that 52 percent of young adults lived with one or both parents, the highest level since the Great Depression.
And while that number has been declining since mid-2020, Pew reported in March 2022 that the percentage of the US population living in multigenerational homes is now 18 percent, up from just 7 percent in 1971.
Although many parents have welcomed their college-age children back into their homes, and a recent report by Savings.com revealed that more than 50 percent of parents provide some form of financial support to their adult children, there is still a lot of pressure on young adults to do this coming out on their own.
Throughout the comments section of the viral post, Redditors who responded to the original poster echoed that push and reiterated the feeling that if his daughters are unhappy with their homes, it’s up to them to do something about it.
“[Not the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/Fastr77 in the top comment of the post, which received more than 9,000 votes.
“I know it’s different [nowadays] and maybe they can’t afford a place, but yes,” they continued. “At this point, it’s only a matter of time. You should want to move out.”
Redditor u/DogmaticNuance, whose comment received more than 2,300 votes, offered a similar answer.
“It’s damn hard to start these days and living at home for years is often the best solution, but damn,” they wrote. “That doesn’t entitle you to ask for an extension.”
“As long as they’re done with school, it’s up to them to either accept the (decent) home you provide or go out and make enough money to rent their own,” added Redditor u/sparkyclarkson and received nearly 1,000 votes.
In a separate comment, Redditor u/Mobile-Feed-9928 defended the original poster and questioned whether upgrading to a larger house is as easy as it sounds.
“It’s hard to get a house or a house [apartment] or whatever, but that doesn’t change for the parents either,” they wrote. “Even if they wanted to move somewhere else, they would still have the same problems as people who want to move out.”
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