The internet rushed to defend a man who was slammed by his fiancee after telling her he wanted his sister to be his “maid of honour”.
In a new viral post shared on Reddit’s infamous “AmITeA**hole” forum, a man asked the community of over three million followers if he should be considered the A**hole because he wanted his sister attends his big day.
The Redditor explained that his sister and fiancé “Sarah” never got along. But since the engagement everything has been going smoothly. They recently talked about who they wanted at their wedding parties. When the Reddit user revealed that he was adding his sister as one of the “groomsmen,” Sarah became upset.
According to a 2017 article by wedding wire, bridesmaids can spend $1,200 on everything that involves a wedding. The prize can go as high as $1,800, which only underscores the importance of getting the right people to participate.
The man then explained that his sister was “aromantic” and had no plans to marry in the future, so he really wanted her to be a part of him.
He wrote: “She said it was not traditional for a woman to be best man and she would be embarrassed. I explained to her that my sister was one of the most important people in my life and she would do it to be apart from our wedding. This made Sarah even more angry and she accused me of trying to ruin their wedding day and locked herself in the bathroom.”
The pair have not spoken to each other since their fight. His in-laws asked that his sister not be separated from the wedding, saying Sarah “should be the most important woman in my life” rather than his sister. Although his sister told him it was okay that she wasn’t invited, he remained resolute in his choice.
In recent edits to his post, the Redditor detailed the aftermath of the heated discussion that included plans to break off the engagement.
“My sister is more important to me than any miserable marriage,” he wrote.
After he returned home, he and Sarah sat down for a lengthy chat about their future together. She explained she doesn’t feel the man and his sister don’t have a “normal” relationship. They eventually reached an impasse, even after discussing therapy or going their separate ways.
Commentators shared their take on the situation.
“Why would you want to marry someone who is not only jealous of your little sister, but also seems to be implying that your relationship with her is inappropriate?” asked u/YummyBread69, receiving the top comment with 12,000 upvotes. “Absolutely NTA. You sound like a big big brother, I’m sorry you’re going through this.”
“NTA,” u/DinaFelice wrote in part, “If she genuinely thinks she should be the most important person in your life, to the point where you exclude other people from being by your side, then that’s one thing extremely insecure and controlling person. I would be deeply concerned about spending your life with someone who doesn’t think your sister should be important to you.”
“NTA. Her fiancé is really immature,” commented u/RetiredAerospaceVP.
“RUN AWAY RUN AWAY RUN AWAY!!! Cancel the wedding! GTFO from there! Your girlfriend is jealous of your fucking sister and as soon as you didn’t give her what she wanted she sent her flying monkeys after you .” u/theresbeans said. “This is just a glimpse of what the rest of your relationship will be like.
https://www.newsweek.com/internet-backs-man-who-wants-sister-wedding-despite-fiances-wishes-1694967 Internet supports man who wants sister in wedding despite fiancé’s wishes