Internet torn when accountant took money from his wife’s disabled sister
An accountant who took ‘rent money’ from his wife’s disabled sister leaves the internet in a new viral post.
Posted on Reddit’s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman under the username u/throwaway65009767 recorded her story to let “AITA” followers decide if she was wrong for asking her husband to to repay her sister the money he had taken. The post has over 8,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
The Redditor begins her story by explaining that she took in her disabled sister when her mother died a few months ago. The only responsibility that the original poster’s (OP) husband takes care of is their financial affairs as he is an accountant. Since she is disabled, she receives a disability card from the Social Security Disability Insurance. The OP is mainly concerned with her sister. She exclaims that things are “going well” for her.
Many people receive checks from the government. According to the Social Security Administration (SSA), as of April this year, over 9,000 people received disability insurance with a monthly check of about $1,200.
She wrote: “I recently noticed that her welfare money wasn’t enough to buy her essentials like medical equipment. Didn’t do much of it until I decided to do the math and missed hundreds with no explanation. I spoke to my sister and she kept implying that my husband had something to do with it until finally she admitted he had taken ‘rent money’ from her and told her to keep it a secret from me. “
“I was floored…completely shocked. I called him and had him come home for a confrontation. He first denied it and then said it made sense because my sister is an adult living under our roof and is therefore expected to pay rent. I screamed my head off when he told him how crappy that was because she is disabled!!! and that money should go into her custody, and more importantly, he should never have touched her money,” she continued.
She demanded that he pay back all the money she had taken from her sister. He argued that if she lived with them, she should pay rent. She threatened to call the police if the money wasn’t returned. Shocked by her statement, he left.
Other Redditors took to the comments section to discuss their take on the OP’s situation.
“You brought a disabled person into your home and it disrupts your marriage. Sounds like he never really wanted that,” u/genkichan wrote. “He shouldn’t have hidden his financial woes from you like that either. He feels entitled to some form of rent, and that in and of itself is not entirely wrong. You both suck at a lack of communication, discovering expectations with each other and finding a solution for everyone involved. You drafted your sister. That doesn’t sound like a joint decision.”
“Period,” u/Chocolatecakeislife defended the OP in response to the above comment, receiving over 8,000 upvotes: “Your husband is stealing from a disabled person. The dispute ends there. He steals, he either pays back or the police can handle the theft. It’s that simple. Any other details in your comment are irrelevant.”
“Part of her caregiving is living in your house, it makes sense that she pays rent. That is what their services are literally there for. I will join [Everyone Sucks Here]. While your husband is right and your sister has to pay rent (since her benefits are partly her care and part if her care is living expenses), he shouldn’t have been doing it behind your back. You suck for screaming yourself to death, threatening the police (who would probably agree with you anyway) and unilaterally choosing to record your sister for free,” said u/SpaceCrazyArtist.
U/Ryan233tiger shouted: “[You’re the A**hole]. I doubt you’ve ever discussed putting your sister up for the rest of your life with your husband before you get married. SSDI is meant to literally pay for the cost of living. Even if you already have the extra space in your house for your sister, she’s still consuming utilities and eating groceries. It’s costing your husband money to have her there.”
“They say your sister has been there for 8 months and has found ‘hundreds’ are missing. Sounds like she won’t pay more than $125 a month. That’s inappropriate, he’s clearly not trying to rob your sister,” they continued.
news week contacted u/throwaway65009767 for comment.
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