Members of a popular internet forum were appalled after a man shared the offensive comment made by a waitress in a busy restaurant.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/throwaway8574744699 (aka Original Poster or OP) said he was having dinner with his sister’s girlfriend when she incited an age slur , who was as brutal as he was, left the place immediately.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] because I didn’t pay for the meal and let my date down?” The post received almost 9,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the last day.
Beginning by explaining that he picked up his date and the pair had dinner together, the original poster said that the meal quickly became hostile after the meal.
“After we finished eating, she asked the waitress to refill her glass of water,” OP wrote. “The place was full and the waitress passed our table several times.”
“Instead of a friendly reminder,” she said [the waitress that] If she’s mentally declining, she should be in a retirement home instead of leaving people thirsty,” OP continued. “The poor woman looked ready to cry.”
After the obnoxious comment, the original poster said he was angry and tried to rectify the situation before leaving his date to pay her half the bill.
“I was shocked, embarrassed and angry all at the same time,” the OP wrote. “I [asked] her, why the hell would she even think about that phrase let alone say it out loud.”
“I apologized and went to apologize to the waitress. I paid for the food I ordered, tipped her heavily and left,” OP continued.
“This morning my sister called me angrily and said what an asshole [I am] for what I did to her friend,” OP added. “I wasn’t interested in arguing with her so I said I’ll send the money to give to her friend and told her God have mercy on them both [of] her future friends.”
In 1998, author Dave Barry formulated a moral principle that many believe to be true.
“A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter is not a nice person,” Barry wrote Dave Barry turns 50.
While it’s believed that Barry’s musings in the late ’90s marked the first time the “waiter’s rule” was mentioned, it certainly wouldn’t be the last. In fact, the belief that a person’s dealings with waiters indicates their true personality is so widespread that the waiter’s rule has its own page on Wikipedia.
Featured on several dating websites as a major red flag, the waiter rule has the potential to make or break new relationships. Recently, lifestyle website More said the mistreatment of waiters should be treated as a window into the future for romantic partners.
“If your date is willing to be rude to your waiter…[they] either [have] has a power issue or just doesn’t understand that we’re all on this planet together,” claimed More author Silas Barnes.
“Decent, general politeness is a harbinger of good things when looking for a partner,” Barnes added. “The lack of that is a big red flag. If your date is willing to treat a waiter with such disrespect, then one day, [they’ll] ready to treat you like that.”
Throughout the comments section of the viral post, Redditors denounced the age insult pronounced by the original poster’s date, praising the man for standing up for the waitress in a meaningful way, and targeting OP’s sister for doing so defended her friend’s behavior.
“[Not the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/Rddtmcrddtface in the top comment of the post, which received more than 13,000 votes. “Nope.”
“You’re good at my book,” they continued. “And good for you, recognizing your sister is just as bad as the boyfriend.”
Redditor u/TheCurvyGamerGirl echoed this opinion.
“Your sister sucks. The date sucks. I’m glad you stood up for the waitress because not many people do,” they wrote. “You’re under no obligation to spend your money on anyone, and she was stupid for dating someone she’s never met without money.”
“First you didn’t promise to pay,” interjected Redditor u/tatasz.
“Her behavior towards the waitress was also absolutely disgusting,” they added.
In a separate comment that received nearly 3,000 votes, Redditor u/darthnesss insists that no one, no matter who they are, has the right to disrespect service workers.
“She fucked around and found out,” they wrote. “Nobody has the right to be so rude to waiters, no matter how important they think they are.”
“People who are rude to service people (unless they actually are [a**holes] which is rare) come out as shitty people,” adds Redditor u/Independent_Big3345 in another comment that got more than 5,000 votes.
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