Man supports for insisting on showing ‘son’ paternity test

The internet has backed a man who insisted on showing his ‘son’ the paternity test results after the son made mean posts about him on social media.

In a now-deleted post made on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a Reddit user posed the question “WIBTA for telling my ex’s kid it’s not mine?” for the AITA -community to decide if he was wrong. The post had over 7,000 upvotes and 700 comments.

The Redditor began by explaining that he dated a woman 17 years ago, “Allie.” Allie had an affair and two months later had a son, “Damien”. The original poster (OP) took a paternity test and found Damien was not his. He left the relationship, calling it “the most miserable time” of his life.

Can you get over a breakup? Some ways to get through the grieving phase of a relationship breakup are to let yourself feel your feelings, quit old hobbies, and find supportive people, like friends and family, out loud Self.

Man worried about paternity test
The internet has defended a man on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum for insisting on showing the results of “son” paternity tests.
fizkes/iStock/Getty Images Plus

Almost two decades later, OP has a wife and three children. He reveals that he has no contact with Allie or Damien. From time to time Allie would reach out and ask for money or see if OP wanted to see Damien, but OP ended up blocking her.

He wrote: “Some old friends also informed me that Damien would post nasty things on social media about his father who left him when he was born. I never took the bait until he turned to me himself on FB calling me [a**hole] for dumping ‘my real wife’ (Allie and I never married) over a family that moved and being supposed to support her, and a bunch of other shit.”

“Some parts really stood out though, things like ‘You have to support your REAL son’ and ‘How do you think it feels when I have to tell people that my own father left me when I was born? How could you give up your own flesh and blood and remarry like it was nothing while my mother and I grew up poor?’ Among other things.” He continued.

When telling the story to his wife, both agreed that Damien does not know that the OP is not his biological father.

OP has a plan to gently tell Damien that he is not his father and what happened between OP and his mother. However, OP’s wife doesn’t think it’s a good idea as it could be “cruel” and just not respond. OP thinks it’s also cruel to make him believe the wrong thing.

OP received a copy of the paternity test and insisted to Allie that “the truth must come out and the lies about my character must be stopped.” He gave her a limited amount of time before sending the test to Damien himself. Damien later sent the OP an apology and all mean comments about OP were deleted.

Redditors were quick to defend the OP in the comments section,

u/Thin-Manufacturer892 gave the OP some advice in a top comment with over 17,000 upvotes: “Maybe he doesn’t need his mother’s details? Maybe just the facts, in a really friendly way, like, ‘Hi, I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling. I don’t want to make you feel any more rejected for ignoring you, so I’ll tell you the truth. Me and your mother were never married and when I took a paternity test it came out back negative. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a difficult time. I’m not sure who your father is, but I’m not. I wish you the best.'”

“[Not the A**hole]. It won’t be easy for him to hear that, but I think it’s necessary. Obviously his mother manipulated him into blaming you for all her problems in life, so sooner rather than later he should know that his mother is toxic. And I think it’s more cruel not to tell him and let him think his ‘father’ (you) left him than to tell the truth,” said u/MetalHead_Literally.

U/PurpleMarsAlien wrote: “[Not the A**hole]. If you just give him the details here – that you and his mother were not married and that you took a paternity test which showed you are not his father.”

“I wouldn’t go into the emotional aspect because that will just give him more options to act on when the factual aspects are going to be quite a lot if Allie has been lying to him his whole life. If he ever reaches out again, you can deal with the emotional aspects, but it’s likely he won’t,” they continued.

“[Not the A**hole]. The kid has to find out sooner or later. Shame on his mother for lying to him for so long,” exclaimed u/thekelsey21. Man supports for insisting on showing ‘son’ paternity test

Rick Schindler

World Time Todays is an automatic aggregator of the all world’s media. In each content, the hyperlink to the primary source is specified. All trademarks belong to their rightful owners, all materials to their authors. If you are the owner of the content and do not want us to publish your materials, please contact us by email – The content will be deleted within 24 hours.

Related Articles

Back to top button