Man supports for refusing to give up plane seat for new mother with baby

A man was supported for refusing to switch places when a new mum asked him to switch places with her husband so he could look after her baby.

In a post on the r/AmITeA**hole Reddit forum – stylized as AITA – u/Bratster22 asked if they were wrong not to switch seats. He received almost 6,000 upvotes for the post,”[Am I the A**hole] for not giving up my seat on the plane?” and over 800 comments.

He says he and his wife booked tickets well in advance for a 10-hour flight, including choosing which seats they wanted. Both he and his wife are tall, he says, so they’ve booked two front-row seats in their section. The seats cost extra as they offer more legroom for the long flight.

When they got in, however, their seat neighbor was already seated – a woman with a baby.

“This woman asked me before I even got a chance to put my bag in the overhead compartment, ‘Can I be really cheeky and ask you to switch places with my husband?'” wrote u/Bratster22.

Her husband sat in the row behind that didn’t have the extra legroom that u/Bratster22 paid for. He cited this as the reason for rejecting her application. He said she said she also paid the fee and yet her husband still sat in the narrower seat – but u/Bratster22 still refused. A flight attendant kept being called and asked to switch seats and again he refused, pointing out that he and his wife had paid extra.

“She then threw daggers at me for a while. The baby also started crying after a while,” he wrote.

After a while the clerk came back and reported that in another area there were extra front row seats and u/Bratster22 and his wife could sit there which gave them the extra legroom they paid for and that the mother’s husband could help with the baby. Although this solution was fine with u/Bratster22 and he and his wife agreed to the swap, he said he could still “hear this lady making lively comments to her husband about us from behind for some time afterwards”.

While his wife’s parents thought that u/Bratster22 should have just given up the place since a baby was involved, his wife agrees that “their poor planning isn’t our problem” and that he would if it was no other seats in the front row would have been eligible to stay. He took to the subreddit to settle things once and for all.

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In a Reddit post, a man is supported for refusing to give up the extra legroom he paid for so a dad can sit next to a new mom and her baby.
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Whether or not to change seats is a common problem for air travelers. Seats are getting smaller, with legroom shrinking from 35 inches in 1978 to as little as 28 inches, according to, while the number of passengers on each flight has increased from 77 percent in 2005 to 89 percent in 2019.

Similarly, there have also been many AITA contributions on seating etiquette. Often these posts are on the side of the person refusing to give up the seat. For example, a woman who bought an extra seat on the plane to be more comfortable was supported for refusing to give up the extra seat to a man who wanted to sit near his girlfriend.

Another woman, who is 6ft 5in and has knee injuries, was assisted for accepting an upgrade after a woman and her child repeatedly asked her to take a narrow window seat. And a couple have also been defended after refusing to give up a seat on a child who was afraid of flying.

As in these cases, u/Bratster22 was supported for pinning.

“Why didn’t she offer the extra legroom seat to whoever sat next to her husband?” u/pmang76 asked in the top rated comment with over 9,000 upvotes.

“Moms always demand that you give them your seat, even if you paid extra and booked the age in advance. This happens to me regularly when I fly and I’m so sick of it. Good for OP that you say no to the unfettered tyranny of mamas. I realize this is an unpopular opinion (and I love both mommies and babies, but not that) [Not the A**hole],” wrote u/sculptural_candle.

“[Not the A**hole] – These parents shouldn’t take their lack of planning out on you. I wouldn’t blame them for asking, but their response was inappropriate,” u/WellingtonGreenIII wrote.

“[Not the A**hole]. Having a baby doesn’t automatically entitle you to everything you want, especially since booking is made in advance and they’ve had plenty of time to plan as much as you have. They tried to force it on you on the plane hoping to get away with it,” u/KiraSelene wrote.

“[Not the A**hole]and this is coming from someone with 4 young children. You shouldn’t be expected to take care of her needs just because she has a baby. If she didn’t plan her trip properly, that’s her problem!” wrote u/Nevali4.

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Rick Schindler

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