Thousands of internet commentators were stunned after an Irish woman explained how she told her sister-in-law that her daughter’s name is not actually Irish.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/Top-Process-4882 (aka Original Poster or OP) said she is married to an American and described the controversy that caused by a baby was misnamed in honor of her heritage.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for telling my sister-in-law her daughter’s name isn’t Irish?” The post received nearly 11,000 votes and 1,900 comments in the last day.
Beginning by explaining that her husband’s sister “was always obsessed with my accent, my name and the fact that her brother married a real Irish woman,” the original poster said her sister-in-law had recently given birth to a daughter, but for a long time discussed Irish names with her before having a child.
“My sister-in-law excitedly told me ages ago that she was giving her daughter an Irish name and she couldn’t wait for me to hear it,” the OP wrote. “About the same time her husband asked me if the name was actually Irish (he told me what it was) and I said no.”
“I didn’t say anything to her because she never asked for it and I wasn’t supposed to know the name.
After the birth of her niece, the original poster stated that her sister-in-law revealed the baby’s name at a family reunion, sparking both confusion and conflict.
“She’s been talking about having an Irish name for her because of me,” the OP wrote. “Her husband told her to stop saying it was Irish.”
“She was so mad at him for claiming it wasn’t and I jumped in. I said the first name was Scottish, not Irish,” OP continued. “She went mad and told me the name was Irish [and] that Irish and Scots had the same stuff.”
“I told her there was some overlap … but we still had our own unique names and the one she chose was clearly Scottish,” OP added. “She’s so mad I pointed it out to her [and] She’s mad at her husband for not agreeing with her at all.”
Despite the love and excitement that comes with having a child, baby names are a highly controversial topic both on and off the internet.
While some parents-to-be navigate between recent naming trends, pressure from relatives, and other surname traditions, others remain firmly fixed on certain names from the start, often with unforeseen consequences looming on the horizon.
In the last few months news week has reported on several Reddit threads dealing with baby naming controversies, including a workplace feud over the acceptance of names from various fictional franchises and a mother who said she’d rather get a divorce, than allowing her husband to name their children after the creators of Minecraft.
In any case, Redditors have come together to support mothers and their right to name and veto them before they become a reality.
In the case of the original poster, however, Redditors offered the opposite perspective, challenging her sister-in-law’s understanding of Irish culture.
“[Not the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/Fun-Two-1414 in the top comment of the post, which received more than 18,000 votes.
“If she really wanted an Irish name, why not ask you, an Irish person?” she questioned. “Even why argue with an Irish person about an Irish name and think they know more about Irish names than a real Irish person?”
Redditor u/Turbulent-Army2631, whose comment received almost 6,000 votes, echoed this opinion.
“This is a perfect example of cultural appropriation rather than cultural appreciation,” they wrote. “If she cared about the culture, she would care about the accuracy and wouldn’t say that Scottish and Irish are basically the same thing.”
“She’s rude and I have no idea why she insists on arguing with someone who is actually Irish,” they added.
In a separate comment, which received more than 1,200 votes, Redditor u/wanesandwaves speculated that the original poster’s sister-in-law didn’t do much research into the naming choice and was offended if anyone dared to point it out.
“She’s just angry that her laziness was brought up so she flies off with excuses that Scottish and Irish are close together,” they wrote. “Yes.”
“Your husband tried. You tried. She will do what she is going to do now,” they added.
news week asked u/Top-Process-4882 for comment.
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