Mom outraged by favorable divorce terms for ‘terrible’ husband supports

A woman has turned to the internet to vent her frustrations about her impending divorce and to gain insight into whether her and her soon-to-be ex-husband’s assets will be shared fairly.

The woman took to Mumsnet to break down the couple’s situation as she is upset at how financially her husband is likely to emerge from the divorce and claims her money was made from her own hard work and dedication.

Her lawyer had explained to the woman that her husband would get out of the marriage with the larger share of her money because of his lower salary.

“We’ve been married for six years,” the woman wrote. “He’s useless and doesn’t help, he’s quit his high-paying job. I work full-time, I’ve been doing overtime, and I also do all the housework and childcare. I’m the higher earner, but I also do most of it. He is.” pretty hands off He likes video games more than his family,” she continued.

She’s not the only one who wants to file for divorce. Data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS) showed that women were over 30 percent more likely than men to file for divorce among opposite-sex couples in 2021.

The database also discovered that “unreasonable behavior” was the most common reason women wanted to divorce their husbands. During the same period, the US recorded 630,505 divorces, a rate of 2.3 per 1,000 people, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Having invested the lion’s share in their relationship both financially and emotionally, the wife is furious that her husband is now – according to her attorney – on the verge of walking away with 75 percent or more equity.

Since it was posted to Mumsnet on January 19 under the username @PopitPop, the post has received 606 votes and received 197 comments. Readers were asked to consider whether they think the woman is being unreasonable when she is upset about her predicament.

About 68 percent of voters sided with the wife and showed their support for her by voting that she is not wrong.

The disgruntled mother and wife reported in their post that their personal savings and high salary meant the couple were only able to buy the £600,000 ($738,000) British home they are now selling and the want to share profit.

“£280,000 ($346,971) of our house is equity. I invested all this equity from our savings, inheritance and selling an apartment before I met him. I make £75,000 ($86,707) and he makes £30,000 ($37,159),” the woman continued.

“I spoke to a lawyer who said he will receive a much larger percentage of that equity because he can’t afford to buy a £30,000 ($37,159) house around here without one taking a large percentage of that equity,” she continued.

The wife concluded that she was perplexed by the attorney’s verdict and turned to the internet for additional insight into whether it’s really fair for her husband to end the relationship with over 75 percent equity .

She also warned readers not to feel sorry for her husband as he has allegedly been “terrible” in the last two years of their faltering marriage.

One Mumsnet user commented under the post: “I would get another opinion. It strikes me as odd that his ability to buy a home is a consideration, especially when you can demonstrate his past earning potential.”

“Their marriage is short. I would get a second opinion,” added another user.

How do you split the money in a divorce?

Lisa Gill, founder of Gill Family Law and Graygill Consulting, also acknowledged that the law is unlikely to be in the woman’s favor even if her marriage ends in the US, as high-income parties often lose out in divorces.

Gil tells news week: “Courts in most states of the United States would examine each party’s ability to earn income in order to determine what is just or fair. The unfortunate truth for many high-income parties is that they may get less of the overall pie by taking on a lower-income spouse.”

She also recommends that couples planning to get married review prenuptial agreements.

“They’re not just for the rich,” Gil clarified.

What happens to the house in a divorce?

Gil went on news week: “The other unfortunate truth that many spouses fail to understand is that using your separated assets to acquire marital property can result in losses. Once she has invested her separate property in the purchase of the couple’s marital home, her separate investment could lose its ‘separate’ classification and be considered a marital property.”

Raiford Dalton Palmer is an author and shareholder at STG Divorce Law based in Chicago. Palmer tells news week: “Wealth acquired during marriage is considered marital property.”

“The wife converted her extramarital property into marital property when she brought it to the new marital home, they were essentially donated to the marital property. Presumably the marital property was then used to pay the mortgage and running costs. That’s why people need to be careful when using extramarital property,” Palmer added.

The author continued, “In short marriages, courts will consider these extramarital contributions in allocating assets if the contribution is readily identifiable. For example, if that person was only married a year or two, I could go to a court in our area to ensure that the wife recovers most of her extramarital investment.”

Palmer concluded that he understood the wife’s irritation at the situation, but unfortunately that was just the nature of the equitable division of marital property.

“The law protects the non-working or low-income spouse from this situation,” he said.

news week could not verify the details of this case.

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