Mom supports as she refuses to give up late daughter’s wedding dress

Members of a popular internet forum rallied behind a mother who, despite multiple efforts to change her mind, refused to give up her late daughter’s unworn wedding dress.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/amithea**hole46 (aka the original poster or OP) detailed numerous attempts to convince her to hand over the dress, stating, why she and her husband is not ready for it.

Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] because I didn’t let my eldest daughter wear my younger daughter’s wedding dress?” The post received almost 10,000 upvotes and 2,200 comments in the last day.

“My husband and I have two daughters, Opal and Amelia,” OP began. “Opal and her fiancé, Jack, passed away four years ago. Her wedding dress was bought and my baby could never wear it.”

She went on to explain that she has held on to the dress ever since, saying the original poster reminded her of her daughter and fiancé, whom she considered her own son.

The original poster also stated that her eldest daughter is getting married soon and has repeatedly asked to wear her sister’s wedding dress, much to the dismay of her parents.

“Amelia is marrying Liam [and] She asked me if she could have Opal’s dress,” the OP wrote. “She said she loves the style/design and wants to tweak it a bit to better suit her tastes.

“I have insisted several times no [said] that Amelia can get her own dress,” OP continued. “Amelia said life is for the living and I make it harder for her, she offered to pay for it and buy it from me but I still declined.

“It seemed like [she] understood, but last weekend…[her fiancé’s] Mom pulled me aside and said Amelia was upset about this whole thing and planning the wedding was already difficult so I could compromise and make it a little bit easier by giving her the dress,” OP added.

Finding the perfect wedding dress, for better or for worse, is a big deal.

But while countless quick-cut cinematics and an entire television series paint a picture of hours spent in dressing rooms trying on dress after dress, some brides are opting for a more tried-and-true option.

Wearing a wedding dress that was previously worn by another family member adds a whole new, sentimental dimension to a bride’s big day. By wearing her mother’s, grandmother’s or another relative’s dress, brides can carry a piece of their loved one with them as they walk down the aisle while adding another chapter to the garment’s scrapbook.

And considering The Knot’s report that the average cost of a wedding dress was about $1,800 in 2021, brides wearing second-hand dresses can also save money where so many others are breaking the bank to get the to achieve the perfect look.

However, the conversation about sentimental wedding dresses quickly becomes muddled when the previous owners have passed away.

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A wedding dress is pictured above. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum sided with a mother who refuses to hand over her late daughter’s wedding dress.
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Across the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors applauded the original poster for preserving their youngest daughter’s wedding dress after her death and slammed their eldest daughter for pushing so hard despite her repeated rejections.

“Wow,” wrote Redditor u/darkness86 in the top comment of the post, which received more than 17,000 upvotes. “[Not the a**hole].

“This dress means a lot to you and it’s your choice whether or not you want Amelia to use it,” they continued. “It isn’t either [mother-in-law’s] Place to settle into something between you and your daughter.”

Redditor u/TheShineyGlitter, whose comment has garnered more than 2,000 upvotes, offered a similar response and speculation as to why the original poster’s daughter is so keen on wearing her sister’s dress.

“It would be one thing for her to talk about how it makes her feel connected to her sister, a way to make her sister’s presence at the wedding felt,” they wrote. “She didn’t say that.

“She… wants to change dress,” they added. “It sounds to me like she thinks it’s a convenient way to save $$.”

In a separate comment, which has received more than 6,000 upvotes, Redditor u/vrindumb highlighted a specific detail contained in the viral post.

“If she’s willing to buy Opal’s dress from you, why can’t she buy a brand new dress?” they questioned.

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Rick Schindler

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