The internet has blasted a roommate after she got mad at a man for kissing her friend.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a roommate using the anonymous username u/aitata3726 shared his story and received over 9,000 upvotes and 7,000 comments on his viral post.
The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining that they recently let their colleague and friend of three years, “Jayden” and his daughter “Lia” move in with them. The OP described Jayden as “funny, smart, and sweet.” Unfortunately for Jayen, budget cuts forced him to quit his job.
After seeing how worried he was about the rent, he and the OP came up with a plan since they loved having Jayden and Lia around. Jayden ended up being responsible for all the chores, errands, and chores. After finding a part-time job, he continued to do most of the housework and pay a small amount of rent.
The OP explained where the conflict started: “My friends have stopped by a few times and obviously met him. Last weekend I had some of my friends staying over at my place. I thought it was going great, but the next day, Lia said she saw Jayden kissing my best friend. I was really upset and Jayden and I fought about it. I told him how betrayed I felt. He tried to say it was okay that that kiss appeared to be “not intentional,” and he did.” I don’t say anything because they “didn’t know what it meant.” But it’s still wrong, I do so much just so he can do this to me.
“I got angry and told him that if he was just going to take advantage of my kindness, he had to leave. That I don’t want to live with someone who cheats on me like that. He was offended and tried to pretend it wasn’t a big deal and I was crazy. He thinks I have no right to say anything about his love life even though it’s my best friend and I do so much for him. Our conversation didn’t really work out, but I spoke to my best friend and she agreed to back down.”
Ever since their argument, Jayden has been acting “cold” towards the OP, telling them they plan to move out as soon as possible. They believe it’s “his own fault” since he shouldn’t be kissing the OP’s friends.
In a recent edit to the post, the OP confirms that they are neither jealous nor in love with Jayden. They believe it was “rude” and “ungrateful” to do what he did.
news week asked u/aitata3726 for a comment.
How to tell your roommate you want to move out
Are you in a similar situation to the OPs where you want to kick out a roommate but don’t know where to start? According to rent.com, here are a few ways to start the conversation about your roommate moving out:
- Be sure to think. Do you have specific reasons why you want them to go. Also, try chatting up your roommate to see if you can pull it off.
- When you’re ready, find a convenient time and place for the conversation.
- Take responsibility for your decision and avoid accusations.
- If applicable, divide the things you share evenly.
- Take a look at your rental agreement. Legally, you cannot kick a roommate out of the lease unless they are involved in a criminal offense. Ask your landlord for more information on the legalities.
news week has published several articles about roommates, including a college student who was spanked for relying on her roommate’s alarm clock in the morning and a man who was dragged for telling his roommate her style was “lazy and unattractive.”
The editors’ reaction
“[You’re the a**hole] Jesus you are possessive of someone you are not even dating,” u/chill_stoner_0604 wrote, earning the top comment from over 23,000 upvotes.
“[You’re the a**hole]”, said u/Educational_Race5679, “It seems like you want to start a family, so you get jealous and angry when you haven’t left out a big detail.”
U/Rastavaray asked: “[You’re the a**hole]. You don’t own your best friend. Jayden and yours [best friend] are two consenting adults and can do whatever they want. How could this be a betrayal? Work out what? Why would he want to live with such a drama queen?”
“[You’re the a**hole]. Seriously, I’ll never understand how to get upset about a friend dating another friend as long as neither party knew anyone else was interested and both parties are considered good people. As if I’d be more comfortable with one of my friends dating another (when both people are known to be respectable, we’re not talking about people known for dating) since I trust my friends more than a stranger. I don’t see how it can be a betrayal without any known romantic feelings involved with either of the three people involved,” commented u/CorporateSharkbait.
“[You’re the a**hole]. You act like he owes you adoration and love for being nice to him,” u/ncslazar7 pointed out.
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