The internet has called out a man’s sister after she called him a ‘cheating pig’ but still wants him to help pay for her education in a new viral post.
Submitted to Reddit’s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum, a man using the username u/notpayforcollege shared his story with the community to see if he really was at fault for not wanting to help pay his sister’s tuition . The popular post has 7,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor began his story by explaining that his wife died of cancer in early 2019. About a year later, he got into an unexpected relationship with one of his friends, whom he has known for years. Almost two years into their relationship, they kept it away from their families except for their parents and some friends.
They recently decided to tell more people as they are expecting their first child and it was late enough in the pregnancy to announce it.
He wrote: “My sister (26f) was home from college when we made the announcement after meeting at our parents’ house. She was immediately open to the whole thing. ‘How could I do this to my wife? “I take care of her,” and she is so disgusted to be related to a brother like me who would “cheat” on his sick wife.
“Then she asked us how our child would feel if they found out it was an affair child. My dad got really mad at her. He told her to leave if she couldn’t behave politely, so she did. It was super unsettling for me, but I was like, okay, it was probably a shock. After that she didn’t stop telling me things. Especially how embarrassing she feels to have a brother who would start a new life with someone else after losing my wife. he continued.
He reiterated that there had never been infidelity in his marriage. He said he gave her some time to “cool off” and recently asked if the two could sit down and talk. She told him that she “does not associate with deceitful pigs”.
To help his sister, he has helped pay for her college so she can work part-time and attend school full-time to achieve her goal of getting a BA. He reminded her that she probably didn’t want to be associated with his money either.
Many students take out loans to finance their studies. According to CNBC, there is an estimated $1.7 trillion in student loans owed.
“That’s where it seems like I’m an asshole because, at least according to my mother, it affects my sister’s upbringing about insignificant words. Even my sister says I’m beyond low because now I’m trying to punish her for saying that I know how much that would set her back if she can’t pay for her tuition on her own. That means she would need a full-time job again and it would then take longer to complete her BA,” she said.
He reasoned that if she was uncomfortable around him, why should he have to pay for her education?
Other Redditors were quick to comment in defense of the original poster (OP).
“[Not the A**hole]“, wrote u/pay_student_loan and received the top comment with over 13,000 upvotes. “So big of her for being so against you but still wanting your money. Just shows where her true feelings are.”
“[Not the A**hole]. This is an excellent educational moment for your sister to learn how favors work,” exclaimed u/dunemi.
“[Not the A**hole]. Your sister is a garbage person. I’m sorry, that’s harsh to say. But she is seriously abusing you using your late wife’s memory. You don’t owe her anything. She should have thought about what she wanted from you before she decided to be so cruel,” explained u/sparkledotcom.
U/PatsyWalker1 wrote: “[Not the A**hole] Your late wife would have wanted you to find happiness after her, she would not have wanted you to be sad. You’ve found a new partner and that’s wonderful (congratulations by the way!) . You didn’t cheat, everyone knows that but your sister. She said she didn’t want to be associated with you and that your money gets her through college faster.”
“I don’t think it was a stupid move to stop helping her with payments, she has said she doesn’t want to associate with you, she can’t just choose what types of connections are OK with YOUR money, you were never obliged to pay for their schooling. Put that money in a new account for your baby,” they continued.
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