Sister who rages about ‘toxic’ parental favoritism at graduation gets praise

Favoritism can manifest itself in many ways within a family — different rules for different siblings, unequal opportunities, or in the case of Reddit user PossibleNervous6026, it’s a perceived disinterest in her own and her younger sister’s interests and accomplishments in favor of their other’s burgeoning volleyball careers younger sister Amy.

“I can’t think of a family whose parents favor one child over the other 2 as obviously as mt family does,” wrote 22-year-old user PossibleNervous6026 in a post to Reddit community AmItheA**hole with over 10,000 likes .

She described how her parents are “obsessed with volleyball” as they both played at the same school and met through the sport. “When I was young, they did everything in their power to get me interested in gaming. It was not me. I’m a theater girl. Amy was interested from a young age. You’ve known since she was young… She had a lot of talent. Amy has played on her school and club teams since she was in 5th grade and was the top player. She’s now going to a Division 1 school on a full-ride volleyball scholarship. My parents’ life is all about Ami,” she said.

A member of TheRipley78 recommended “[…] Cut down toxic family members and watch them all make shocked Pikachu faces when you’re better off without them.”

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Stock image of two siblings who don’t get along. A Reddit user said her parents favored her younger sister Amy because of her burgeoning volleyball career.

According to a study in Journal of scientific and innovative research, Sibling rivalry has been shown to affect approximately 30 to 60 percent of children worldwide, leading to behaviors such as “jealousy, arguing, teasing, kicking, hitting, biting, being mean and competitive.” Symptoms and signs typically begin in the early years, with 20 to 30 percent of affected children having such symptoms into adulthood.

The author goes on to list examples of favoritism, including a refrigerator covered in “20 different magnets from Amy’s volleyball pictures. To the side is a picture of me playing cat in a hat in 8th grade. None from the littlest sister. She also mentioned a family tradition of watching “Amy’s Feature Film” after dinner on “every holiday.”

“Parents ordered custom replica jerseys for Amy’s club team for us all to wear. Got our last name and Amy’s number. Parents force us to wear them. (We did it in a Christmas card) They also force us to go all Amy’s games. But I don’t think Amy has ever been to any of my plays. Even in college, her excuse for skipping my games was always valid, but my excuse for skipping her games was never valid,” she explained.

She also mentioned that while her other younger sister also plays volleyball, “[…] but is clearly not at the level that Amy was when she was 15. So my parents treat their volleyball like an afterthought.

A Reddit user 1Questional Bard also called the parents “toxic,” saying, “NTA! It’s a clear preference. I feel sorry for the siblings. If Amy quits her sport I would be afraid they would turn around or leave her and it’s terrible how that can affect someone mentally. The parents are toxic. Playing the same video on every holiday and nothing else on the other two? This is obsession. I see therapists in the future. I wish you all the best and hope her favoritism doesn’t go to Amy’s head.”

The post came to a head when PossibleNervous6026 explained that her sister’s last high school graduation was twice the size of hers. “When I spoke to a family who asked me about Amy, I just said I wish my parents would care about my hobbies or me in general like they do about Amy. And it hurts to see the obvious favoritism. They agreed I’ve noticed it my whole life too,” she wrote.

“After the party I was confronted by my parents because the extended family actually sided with me and said it wasn’t fair. My parents just said they had no idea. You had no idea what I was talking about the day they talked about Amy.’ Maybe I was jealous of the party, but I couldn’t handle another Amy show while Mom and Dad pretend they have a kid,” the original poster said.

A comment left by user aquavenatus, which has over 1,400 likes, expressed his concern for the younger sister: “Honestly, I’m worried about your youngest sister. You’re not interested in volleyball, but your youngest sister isn’t as ‘talented’ as Amy. This jealousy worries me a lot. Your parents suck. Please keep an eye out for your youngest sister (I think she’s a ticking time bomb).”

Another user Emmaleah17 commented with almost 11,000 likes: “Big NTA [not the a**hole]. Your parents suck. Permission to rant about Amy’s problem here. I’ve got popcorn ready and I’m invested.”

https://www.newsweek.com/sister-raging-parents-toxic-favoritism-graduation-party-praised-reddit-1719353 Sister who rages about ‘toxic’ parental favoritism at graduation gets praise

Rick Schindler

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