The new mom was slammed for using her sister’s deceased baby’s name for her own child

The internet was stunned after a new mum used her sister’s late baby’s name for her own child.

Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman using the anonymous username u/Available-Hearing515 shared her story to get feedback from the “AITA” followers.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she gave birth to her daughter three years ago. Unfortunately, her child died 19 hours after birth. She described the experience as “traumatizing” and that she still struggles with it today. Due to the pain, she and her partner split as they “couldn’t take being together anymore”. Her name was Coraline Iris, two names she and her partner liked.

“My younger sister recently had a daughter and she kept the name a secret from everyone until it was legal. I didn’t give it much thought until the name went live in an announcement, Iris Coraline. She took my two daughters names and just swapped the order. If she had just taken one of the names to try to honor my daughter and made a middle name I wouldn’t be upset, but that felt on purpose, and the fact that she hid it from everyone does worse”, u /Available-Hearing515 wrote.

“I went to her house to ask what she was playing with and she was offended when she told me she always thought the names were beautiful and she had switched the order so I shouldn’t be upset if I had an argument with.” Screaming on both ends, finally I called her an insensitive bitch before leaving and ended up crying a lot when I got home. Everyone in the family is uncomfortable with this choice of name, but many think I’ve pushed it too far to go to her house and start a fight when she’s recovering from the birth,” she continued.

The OP’s mother told her that it was a nice way of “keeping her daughter’s name alive,” which still doesn’t seem right to her.

news week contacted u/Available-Hearing515 for comment.

New mom using name of sister's deceased child
Two sisters are arguing upstairs. Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a new mom was slammed for using her sister’s deceased baby’s name.
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news week has published several articles about family conflicts, including an identical twin who used her sister’s nickname for her OnlyFans account, a woman who was praised online for “body-shaming” her overweight sister about her new job outfit, and a ‘childish’ man slammed online after faking an injury to leave her brother’s wedding

How to Rekindle a Relationship with Your Sister

Are you in a similar situation as the OP? Have you and your siblings gotten into a big argument that resulted in you not speaking to each other? Have you calmed down from the argument and are ready to make amends? According to, here are some great ways to rebuild sister relationships:

  • Apologize: You can help turn the situation around in a positive way by putting your sibling relationship first.
  • As you discuss the matter, listen to their side of the story as this can help you see how things went wrong.
  • Show your appreciation for your sibling by doing something nice for them.
  • Understand that it can take time for an apology to be accepted.

The Redditors’ answer

U/Unm_hello_yes wrote in the top comment with over 11,000 upvotes: “[Not the a**hole] She expected you to react negatively, so she kept it a secret, but instead of asking you or telling you tactfully, she sets you up to find out on social media… after it’s permanent. It’s so insensitive, absurd, a cry for attention, and fucked up right, it’s ridiculous.

“I’m sorry this is happening to you. That’s not how you remember your child… otherwise she would have asked you and told you that. She steals the name and is shameless. Sorry. I hope she realizes her big mistake, but it sounds like the classic case of the youngest sibling who generally just gets what they want and everyone around them just conforms [bulls**t]’ the commenter continued.

U/Born_Tomorrow_1482 said:”[Not the a**hole]-Forgiveness????????? She should have asked permission first. But hiding it until it was legal and couldn’t be easily changed was 10000% intentional. I agree, then naming (first name) and then having a middle name, either Iris or Coraline, in honor of your baby would be acceptable (still with permission).

“How did she think you would feel when her child comes to family events and you have to go through that trauma over and over again? Absolutely didn’t get that far. Her recovery from childbirth is no excuse for not explaining her heartless actions to you. Wait a little if you want, but you deserve an explanation. That she thinks you wouldn’t be uncomfortable with the “swap” is bulls**t. I’m so sorry she did this to you,” the Reddit user concluded.

“[Not the a**hole] I’ll honestly cut them off forever but that’s just me,” admitted u/brokentothecoregirl.

“[Not the a**hole] It’s only been three years and she’s been using both the first and middle names… I don’t care how much she liked the names, it’s just all kind of callously cruel. You may have overreacted, but honestly you were provoked. I’m so sorry you had to go through that,” commented u/IAndaraB. The new mom was slammed for using her sister’s deceased baby’s name for her own child

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