A woman found support online after refusing to search a man’s home and phone for information about her brother’s custody case.
The now-viral Reddit post, titled “AITA for refusing to help my brother and telling him he should have expected to lose his children,” was upvoted 9,800 times with 1,600 comments. Redditor @thumbelina25 shared the post on the Am I The A**hole subreddit on June 23, and it’s been causing a stir ever since.
Custody cases can be very expensive and time consuming. Costs vary based on numerous factors, including the attorney chosen and whether the case is contested or uncontested. According to Talking Parents, the cost can range from $3,000 to $40,000 or more. Attorney fees can vary from $85 to $400 or even more per hour. This number is based on the attorney’s experience, reputation and track record of successful cases.
In most cases, each side must pay its own legal fees. However, a judge can grant an exception if one person makes much more money than the other person or if one cannot afford representation. Some parties may also be eligible for a pro bono attorney or legal aid based on their income.
The original poster revealed her brother is going through a pretty “nasty custody battle,” and it looks like he’s about to lose his kids. It all started when her brother had an affair and continued to date the other woman who is now his fiancée, even after his wife found out about it. She moved with her two children after having a “mental breakdown”.
“My sister-in-law didn’t want her family to get involved until he took the kids, but now my brother realizes he screwed up because my sister-in-law’s father and brother are taking advantage of their money and connections to take advantage of him in court (unfairly ) to destroy,” she explained.
When asked for further clarification on the man who took the children, the OP explained in a comment that he told his wife he was taking them to the park and then “never went home and wouldn’t let her see them.” “.
The OP has tried not to “interfere” but all her family wants to discuss is the custody case as everyone is “concerned” they won’t be able to see the children if the husband loses.
The Redditor has a “casual sexual relationship” with her sister-in-law’s brother, and the OP’s sister suggested she use this situation to “search his phone/house to see if there’s anything that might help.” ‘, her brother’s case.
The OP continued, “Everyone was on board with the idea, but I refused to do it. I told them he would catch me but they still want me to try. I ended up having a fight with my brother because he said I had I didn’t care how he was going to lose his kids.”
The woman admitted she was “upset,” so she told him he “should have expected losing the kids” because “he knew who her family was before he decided to fuck it all up.” “.
In another comment, the OP revealed that her sister-in-law’s father and brother “don’t have all the evidence true,” adding, “They have witnesses who are lying and portray my brother as a neglectful parent with a short-tempered and aggressive bent.” She said also, she knew they were “lying,” as her in-laws’ brother practically admitted.
Numerous people commented on the situation and the majority didn’t believe the OP was to blame, nor would they condone sniffing the woman’s sister-in-law’s brother. One Redditor thought it was a “long-term, high-risk fishing expedition that would violate the woman’s own integrity.”
“NTA, it’s disgusting that they expect you to do this,” they added. “And really, what on earth would you expect that to change for him? He’s dug his grave and now he’s in crisis and panicking.”
Another user didn’t mince words and weighed his verdict on NTA. “Your family was basically trying to get you to spy on your brother’s ex,” they said. “Restrained, your family sounds bloody toxic.”
Others called out the man’s behavior in the situation. “Yeah… It sounds like he cheated on his wife, pushed her into it [a] Freaked out and then kidnapped the kids with his affair partner… Doesn’t sound like being destroyed in court is unfair,” argued one Redditor.
One Redditor admitted they “cheer for” the OP’s sister-in-law. “Doesn’t sound like it’s ‘unfairly’ destroyed,” they said. “He cheated on his wife and took his children away from their mother. He deserves whatever happens. If you’ve got a bit of decency left, don’t do anything illegal and be nice to your SIL, and maybe you’ll see your munchies. NTA.”
Another user urged the OP not to “destroy” what they hoped was a “good, solid relationship” with her in-laws’ brother for her, by “sniffing,” adding, “Your Brother made this mess. He needs to make things right and go to court instead of asking you to do something shitty and illegal!”
One Redditor thought the OP’s brother was the a**hole in the situation “probably in at least a hundred ways,” insisting, “That’s on him. He started it, he continued it, and now he has to live with it. Don’t get involved or you could get yourself into trouble.”
news week asked Redditor @thumbelina25 for a comment.
This isn’t the only viral moment dealing with family drama. A woman was applauded for revealing a “disgusting” family secret. Another woman was supported for telling her family to “ask for forgiveness” from her husband. It also praises a sister who fumes at a graduation about her parents’ “toxic” favoritism.
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