The internet has defended a woman for “ruining her friend’s wedding” by not telling her husband sooner he smelled.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman using the anonymous username u/AcceptableScene6870 shared her story to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 6,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began her post by explaining that she was having issues with her husband, to the point where she told him she “needed space” and he was moving back into his mother’s house for the time being.
One of her longtime friends got married this week and they were both invited. Although he didn’t live with her, they decided to leave together and he would move back in afterwards. However, they performed separately.
The OP was the first to arrive. As her husband did so, he walked over to join the conversation she was having with friends.
She wrote: “He walked over to us and immediately I noticed this putrid stink on him. He smelled like he’d been dumpster diving. It made my eyes water a little. I noticed that our friends noticed but he was completely unaware and kept saying “I tried to tell him discreetly but he didn’t take the hint at all. We took our places in the chapel and the service was beautiful. To By this point my nose had pretty much blocked out the smell, but it was clearly annoying to other people and I still hadn’t had a chance to tell him.
“After the service I saw an old friend who I hadn’t seen in years and wanted to see again. Apparently while I was chatting with her, a friend had pulled my hubby aside and basically told him he stinks. He got angry and demanded we leave immediately. We had a fight in the car and he told me I was a terrible woman so he would embarrass himself like that in front of friends and I probably laughed behind his back,” she continued.
As they got into the car, he called her out and said it was her responsibility as a wife to call him at his mother’s house to remind him to shower as he can be forgetful. On the drive home, he just “insulted” her.
The next morning she checked her phone and saw that she and her husband had been removed from group chats with friends. Apparently the OP heard through friends that the bride felt the couple had “ruined her day” and that she didn’t want to speak to them.
“I’m shocked and really hurt and felt guilty all day. I didn’t want to embarrass him by letting him know when other people were around, but now I’ve cost him friends and feeling like I’ve done it all is awful,” she admitted.
news week contacted u/AcceptableScene6870 for comment.
news week has published many articles on hygiene, including the hygiene tips sent to female staff at an employee’s workplace, how the internet was stunned by a man who doesn’t use shampoo or toothpaste, and Newsweeks Best Infection Prevention Products of 2021.
How to politely tell someone they smell
Telling someone something that could potentially embarrass them is neither fun nor easy. According to yourdevan.com, if you are not that close to the person, a close friend of the person should tell you. Another option is to try to use the nicest words you can while saying them in a private space so there aren’t many people around. Also, give them tips by discussing different hygiene products or perfumes, or asking if they need any.
Everyone must take care of their personal hygiene. So what are the best products to have in the house? According to thesurvivalmom.com, toothpaste, toothbrushes, deodorant, mouthwash, cotton swabs, shower gel, toilet paper, trash bags, hand sanitizer, lotion, feminine hygiene products and more are essential to have in your emergency kit.
“[Not the a**hole]. Her husband is the one who ruined their day by showing up smelling like a whale carcass. you could have said something you haven’t. From his reaction, I’d bet he’d be upset either way if he told him or not. And frankly, he should be embarrassed. He is a grown man who lives with his mother and still depends on his wife to call him daily to remind him to shower. F that”, said u/ghostofumich2005 and received the top comment with over 16,000 upvotes.
“I saw on this sub ‘my husband got mad at me for forgetting to wake him up’, ‘my husband got mad at me for making him the wrong food’, ‘my husband got mad at me ’cause I was blablahhhhhhhh’ but I’ve NEVER seen RRRR how MY HUSBAND WAS ANGRY AT ME FOR DIDN’T TELL HIM TO SHOWER. This is a historic day for men’s incompetence when it comes to hygiene. [Not the a**hole],” exclaimed u/capricornmoney.
U/tatasz commented: “[Not the a**hole]. How old is your husband, 5? If he doesn’t shower, it’s on him. Honestly, I’m not surprised you need some space. But what you really need is a divorce.”
“You want to stay married with that man’s excuse? In earnest? Nobody, and I mean literally nobody, should have to tell their spouse to take a shower. Forgetfulness is no excuse for poor hygiene. Doesn’t he have a nose? Is he incapable? smell or even feel the dirt on his body? The fact that he was swearing at you and blaming you for this whole situation would be enough for me to make the breakup official. This is appalling behavior.” u/straightaspasta wrote.
https://www.newsweek.com/wife-backed-ruining-friends-wedding-not-telling-husband-he-smells-1733086 Wife Supports ‘Ruining Friend’s Wedding’ By Not Telling Husband He Stinks