Internet commentators rallied behind a 21-year-old woman whose police photoshoot ruffled her now-ex-boyfriend’s feathers.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/ExtensionPresent15 (aka Original Poster or OP) said she was in a relationship with her high school sweetheart for four years before he decided that it was over – and engaged the authorities to make sure the split went smoothly.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] because I did a cop photoshoot because of what my ex did?” The post received more than 11,000 upvotes and 950 comments in the last day.
“I… just got out of a 4-year relationship with mine [high school] darling,” OP began. “He decided he was done, and it broke my heart.”
The original poster went on to explain that the breakup was painful but amicable, saying her former partner kept things warm and slept on the couch in their shared apartment.
Until it was time for him to move out.
“He showed up around 7pm…with his buddies and two squad cars parked right outside in the parking lot…with their lights on at all times,” the OP wrote. “I was ashamed. Our relationship wasn’t violent or dramatic.
“I still don’t know why he wanted the police … but I spent the week answering questions from everyone we know,” OP continued. “The next weekend my best friend showed up with a bottle of wine and two party city cop costumes to try and cheer me up.
“We took all sorts of silly photos of her handcuffing me… it was the first time I’ve smiled since the breakup and I decided to post some of the funnier ones,” OP added. “The next morning I woke up to texts from him and some of his buddies saying how horrible I am and that I should be ashamed of making fun of him.”
Chaotic breakups are not a new phenomenon.
But with the continued proliferation of social media platforms, the potential for disastrous breakups has grown exponentially.
Three years ago, researchers at Colorado University concluded that social media, due to inhuman algorithms, is preventing separated couples from breaking up like in previous generations.
Where living, breathing people are expected to have the wherewithal Not To invite a friend’s ex to a meetup, or to pull out photos of a friend’s ex to remind them of all the good times they shared together, many algorithms are designed to show social media users content from theirs Show closest people, including recently removed romantic partners.
“Most contemporary relationships also exist online, where they are represented on social media platforms through tagged photos, mutual friends, and entire conversations that form a digital timeline,” the study, published by Colorado University, says.
“As a result of enduring connections, even algorithms designed to promote memories and well-being…can induce insensitive encounters long after a relationship has ended,” it continues.
Despised social media users are not without options, however, and most platforms have mute and block buttons for a reason.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, many Redditors echoed this sentiment and called the original poster’s ex-boyfriend for complaining about the breakup becoming a public spectacle after he’d already done so himself.
“[Not the a**hole]’ wrote Redditor u/Beancaped in the top comment of the post, which received almost 16,000 upvotes. “He’s your ex now, he can’t comment on your posts.
“Even if he did, you were just trying to have fun,” they continued. “Well done you rebounded!”
Redditor u/gnothro, whose comment received more than 3,500 upvotes, offered a similar answer.
“What a drama queen,” they quipped. “You dodged a bullet here, he can get dramatic elsewhere.”
“So the houseboy can dish it out by having a police escort for no apparent reason, but he can’t take it when you have an incredibly adorable, cathartic photoshoot,” agreed Redditor u/pennywhistlesmoonpie, receiving nearly 3,000 upvotes. “So [not the a**hole] it’s not even funny.”
news week asked u/ExtensionPresent15 for a comment.
https://www.newsweek.com/woman-defended-photoshoot-mocking-breakup-high-school-sweetheart-1745552 Woman defends for photoshoot and taunts breakup with high school sweetheart