The internet has urged a woman to say no to being her best friend’s maid of honor as she marries her ex-boyfriend.
Posted on Reddit’s popular r/TrueOffMyChest, a woman using the anonymous username u/New-Dragonfruit-996 shared her story and received over 10,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments on her post.
The original poster (OP) began her story by declaring that she and “Sophie” had been friends for a decade. The OP admitted that she didn’t like Sophie at first, but after talking to her all the time since she couldn’t ignore her any longer, they became best friends.
Four years ago the OP wrote that she met her boyfriend “Jacob”.
“He was my first boyfriend,” she wrote, “I’ve never been pretty so he was the first guy to show me attention outside of dates. He took me on my first real date, we started planning to move in together and when I talked about our future I was really happy. But then, after a year, he said words that turned my stomach. He asked me if I would mind if he could start dating my best friend.
“I can tell you the exact details of that day. I had just finished work, I was having a really good day because my favorite dog had walked in and I was on my way back. My phone rang in the car and Jacob said he wanted to talk. He told me that he had been talking to my best friend for a while and that he had fallen in love with her and wanted to know if it was okay to go out with her. She felt the same for him too, but said he did it to get my permission before taking things further out of respect,” she continued.
She admitted that Sophie was “pretty” as she often told her she was beautiful, so it made sense to her that Jacob would leave her for Sophie. She told Jacob it was “fine,” packed his things with “a smile,” and congratulated them on their new relationship. The next day she wrote that she was very angry and even cried. She didn’t hold a lot of grudges against Sophie, but she can’t hang out with her without getting angry at everything she’s done.
Three years after Jacob and Sophie’s relationship, they wanted to get married. Sophie asked the OP if she could be the maid of honor, but she won’t say yes.
“The thought makes me sick. I hate my best friend so much I don’t want to attend her wedding,” she said.
In a recent update, the OP changed her mind when she would agree to be Sophie’s maid of honor. Since she had started moving away, she decided to ghost them.
news week contacted u/New-Dragonfruit-996 for comment.
Signs it’s time to let go of a friendship
Do you think it’s time to let go of one of your friendships? According to psychcentral.com, here are some signs that will let you know it’s time to move on:
- Their friendship has turned toxic. If you’re scared before you meet your boyfriend, if he encourages you into unhealthy or unwanted habits, or hurts your self-esteem, it’s become a toxic friendship.
- You find it difficult to trust your boyfriend.
- They feel like they don’t invest as much time, energy, or empathy as you do.
- You noticed that your interests had changed and moved away.
“Don’t do it,” u/ArtyMcFly urged, “cut all ties, wave goodbye and start your better life now.”
“Be the villain. There’s nothing wrong with doing what you want for yourself, if that makes you a villain, fuck it. you are the bad guy What are you going to do? be embarrassed at the wedding? Not going through with the wedding? stop talking to you? You don’t seem to like her the way she is anymore,” said u/foolcopernicus.
“So… say… no. This is your opportunity to stand up for yourself. Say no to that ‘friend’ you hate.
“Look, it’s crystal clear that you suffer from low self-esteem. To put yourself in a better mental state, all you have to do is turn them off completely. Go nuclear and block every channel of communication. You will feel guilty about it at first is what your low self esteem is telling you, but then you will find that a load has been lifted from your shoulders. We all tell you that you deserve happiness, self-esteem and peace of mind, and you never will have those people in your life,” commented u/raffles79.
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