The internet is rallying behind a woman who has told her boyfriend’s parents she doesn’t want children in a new viral post.
Posted on Reddit’s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman using the username u/damnedrascal shared her story with the “AITA” community to see if she was wrong. The post has 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor explained that she’s been seeing her boyfriend for about two and a half years and made it clear that she never wanted children. He always tells her that they “can talk about it when the time comes”. The original poster (OP) knows her boyfriend wants children in the future and suggested they break up so he can find someone who would want children. He said it’s okay not to have kids as long as he’s with her. However, her boyfriend’s parents want grandchildren in the future since he is their only child.
She wrote: “So yesterday I had dinner with his dad and we start talking about school shootings and the state of the world for kids. I take this opportunity to say that I never intend to bring a child into the world and will never have children.”
Many Americans today do not want children. According to a study by the Pew Research Center, about 44 percent of people ages 18 to 49 say they are unlikely to have children.
“Surprisingly, his father didn’t seem to care at all, he even agreed with my arguments about not having her, he joked that his wife would be heartbroken never to be a grandmother, but agreed that ultimately it was mine.” decision was,” she continued.
Her boyfriend heard her and was upset by her comment.
“During the conversation I said, ‘Yeah, so I just don’t think motherhood is for me’ and my friend said, ‘Yeah, you made that bloody clear, it’s all you’ve been talking about in this whole conversation .'” she explained.
When they were alone, he ignored them. She ended her post by declaring that she didn’t feel like she had done anything wrong by being honest with one of her boyfriend’s parents, and that she didn’t want children and didn’t want to give him or his family “false hope” about her might change her mind one day.
The Reddit community was quick to defend the OP in the comments section.
U/DogsReadingBooks received the top comment with 14,000 upvotes, “[Not the A**hole]. But you know he’s waiting for you to change your mind, right?”
“Or that an accident happens,” answered u/Frozen_Twinkies.
“Yes. I would be very careful with birth control. Especially with condoms, make sure he doesn’t stick them through or steal away or anything,” u/DogsReadingBooks warned the OP.
“[Not the A**hole]. Unfortunately, your boyfriend seems genuinely hoping that one day you’ll change your mind because you love him so much, and he’s just realized that will never happen. I would prepare for a breakup,” said u/Aw_bull_nuts.
“[Not the A**hole]he seems like the type to ignore what you want and pressure you when ‘the time comes,'” wrote u/CynfulPrincess.
U/semcg exclaimed: “[Not the A**hole]. But separation is. Of course you want different things. If he doesn’t jump in agreement, you’re wasting each other’s time.”
“[Not the A**hole]. But that doesn’t sound like the right relationship for either of you,” said u/Unpopable_Bubble.
news week contacted u/damnedrascal for comment.
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