A woman’s attempt to save money for a close friend’s gift has backfired spectacularly, with anger over her actions spreading on social media.
Money is a touchy subject in any relationship, including friendships. A 2017 PayPal survey found that nearly half of Gen Z and Millennials said they face pressure in their friend groups over money issues.
Sometimes this can be motivated by differential earning power among friends, but other times it’s the result of a person being a little too eager to save the pennies.
In any case, any clumsy attempt to reclaim expenses is likely to cause tension and disagreement within a friendship group.
But while clumsiness can be forgiven, one woman’s frugal actions, detailed in a Mumsnet shared post, seem a bit more calculated.
According to a user who posted as TulaOfDarkWater, she and a group of five other friends had decided to splash with their friend for her birthday as she was having a difficult time.
There were two options, one costing £500 ($625) and splitting six ways or another costing £700 ($875) and also splitting between them. Initially, she said everyone agreed that the second option was beyond her budget.
But just as they were about to buy something, one woman in the group, whose name was just “Anne,” revealed that she’d received a coupon via email that entitled her to 20 percent off the more expensive gift, and she found it , it would be “stupid to do it waste it.”
After doing the math, they found that the price would drop to £560 ($700), meaning they were therefore only £112 ($140) each and just £12 ($15) more for the lavish gift would pay.
Anne went ahead and bought the gift with her voucher, but when it came time for everyone to pay their debts, she told them they needed to send her £140 ($175) each as the 20 per cent voucher was theirs post covered.
The woman and her friends were furious at Anne’s actions, especially after one of the group commented that she had been sent “the exact same voucher”.
“This coupon was one of those promotional emails that gets sent out to those who are on the company’s mailing list,” she added. “It wasn’t a voucher of monetary value or a gift to her.”
Anne, meanwhile, hadn’t mentioned the fact that this would cover her share of the gift and even seemed to appreciate how things would be split when texting between the group.
Instead, she claimed her responses to the messages were “a mistake” and that she didn’t take up the issues of how much they were spending because she’s “bad” at math.
When Anne was branded “cheeky”, the woman wondered if her friend had “deliberately” misled the group, but those who took to social media had no doubt.
Unblessed branded her behavior “beyond the cheek” and, like many in the thread, opined that the woman and her friends should simply pay her the £112 ($140) they originally agreed.
NothingIsWrong said they should also “reconsider the friendship”, adding it was “outrageous” for them to think “a free email will save them money”.
HumorReplacementTherapy commented, “If Anne wants to lose 4 friends, she’s on the right track. Tell her if she goes ahead, she won’t have any friends to celebrate her own birthday with when the time comes.”
Misskatamari added, “If she can’t see that she’s being massively unreasonable, then she’s a completely cheeky f***** and I would see her in a very different light.”
Threebutterflies, meanwhile, wrote: “What a horrible and mean thing to do to their friends,” with ZooMount agreeing they “would be careful with this friendship from now on.”
news week contacted TulaOfDarkWater for comment.
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